Elementary particles are bundles of potentiality. We as individuals are as bundled with potential as anything else in the universe. Undefinable and unanalyzable. None of us exist independent of our relationships with others - humans and non-humans, living and non-living. Different circumstances need different qualities. Some qualities reveal themselves in a certain situation, others stay dormant. Each relation to a situation is slightly different. Different people, different tasks, different weather, different state of mind. In each new relation, we become new.
If you always exist in relation. If you are never not in relation. You can stop thinking in terms of separation. You can stop thinking in terms of polar opposites. You can stop thinking of yourself as you.